A crystal grid on a wooden altar top, featuring rose quartz, aphophyllite, kyanite, rose petals and more. A figurine of Fortuna stands at the head, and two candles and joss-sticks are burning.

Rose Quartz - a ritual for self-love

Rose Quartz - a simple ritual for deep self-love. This journey with will connect you with the energy of unconditional love and acceptance, and brings it with you into the 'real world' as you return to normal life. It ends with a meditation prescription for those feeling rejected, unappreciated, or careworn.

You will need:

  • Candles and a lighter/matches
  • Incense and something to hold it
  • A few flowers, or sprigs of fresh herbs
  • A journal and pen
  • A piece or pieces of Rose Quartz crystal

If you are missing any of these items, skip or substitute to your liking.

Preparation

  • Pick up the area where you will do your self-love meditation, so there is not too much clutter and mess distracting you. Cleanse with smoke or sound - ring the bell or loudly clap your hands around the perimeter of the room to move stagnant energy.
  • Arrange a soft place to lie, a nest of cushions and blankets. Loosen any tight clothing. Be warm enough in winter, cool enough in summer.

Devotions

  • Light your candles and incense, and pass all your tools through the smoke with the words 'Spirit of Fire, with this blessed smoke I baptise these tools. Please burn away any connections to energies that do not serve my wellbeing, so that I may honour and receive the crystalline energy of Rose Quartz. Thank you, thank you, thank you.'

Entering meditation

  • Take the crystal in your hand and hold it against your heart, for as long as it is comfortable to do so.
  • Lie back in your nest of soft cushions and blankets, become mindful of your breath, and meditate on the nature of unconditional self-love.
  • Invite the ancient wisdom contained in the crystalline structure of Rose Quartz to make itself known to you, and observe what makes itself known.
  • If you prefer a guided meditation, The Naked Heart is based on connection to Rose Quartz.

Afterglow
On emerging from meditation, set the intention to bring the energy from your encounter with you into the real world as you return to normal life.

Briefly bow your head to thank the energy that surrounds you, then turn to your journal to note any reflections, messages or insights that came to you.

Allow your crystal to bask in the candle light and incense smoke, sprigs of fresh herbs or flowers at her feet, for a short time before you emerge from this space that has become a cocoon of self-love.

Prescription: The Naked Heart is a soothing guided journey, in meditation, to open your heart to the nurture, healing and protection of the Divine Mother; integrate grief, gain distance from pain. You will emerge softer yet stronger, released from shame and with your naked heart restored.


A photo of Anna, she is against a white wall wearing a black dress, looking down towards the ground. Her face is mostly obscured by her hair.

Love Letter

As soon as I have published here I will compose a love letter. This relationship has struggled greatly over the years but after much work and willingness to change, it is now very secure and nurturing.

With my fountain pen, on heavy paper, I shall compose deep compliments and excavate my most tender feelings.

I will re-state my utter commitment to uncondintional, everlasting love. I expect I shall embarrass myself a little bit with my earnest phrasing.

Sometimes, the truth is bigger than words. I know I will come up against the limits of language.

As soon as I have published here I will compose a love letter to myself.

It’s time I put it on paper.


A Meditation for Anxiety

I’ve recorded a guided meditation for you because this practice is not widely known and helps me tremendously on days when I struggle under the weight of anxiety.

Thankfully, those days are relatively few and far between; but it was not long ago that the ‘ok’ days were rare as hens’ teeth.

The meditation is based on the Buddhist tradition of Tonglen, wherein we reverse our ego’s sweet but ultimately absurd insistence on going to any lengths to resist and resent suffering. Instead in Tonglen we open ourselves to pain and experience its transmutation.

The purpose is to more deeply awaken our compassion but also to recognise the very important point that ‘our’ pain is not, in fact, ours. It is ‘the’ pain, and widely or even universally experienced.

With much practice, I find I can now perform a few Tonglen breaths while walking through town, or preparing a meal, and feel an expansion of love and compassion that serves me, and by extension all of humanity, greatly.

It is my sincere wish that you find this recording helpful and might try it soon or bookmark it as part of your toolkit for when things seem impossible.

Let me know how you find it.